Showing posts with label Princess Alice. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Princess Alice. Show all posts

A Very Happy New Year!


For so many people whom I have met, the year 2010 has been unusually difficult in so many ways. There seems to have been so much illness and bereavement and it has often felt to me that everything was thrown up into the air in order to come down in a different and far better place. With that thought dominant in my mind, I am so looking forward to Midnight tonight and the birth of 2011.

The year 1866 had been particularly distressing for Queen Victoria’s daughter, Princess Alice. The Austro-Prussian War not only meant a long separation from her husband and the sadness of seeing the wounded Hessians, but also had led to her being on the opposing side to her closest sister, Vicky, in Prussia. By the end of the year the war was over, and as Princess Alice looked forward to 1867, she wrote to her mother:

“May the Almighty give you every blessing of peace and comfort which the world can still give you....May every blessing fall on my dear old home, with all its dear ones! May peace and the glory which peace and order bring with it, with its many blessings, protect my native land; and may, in the new year, your wise and glorious reign, so overshadowed by dear Papa’s spirit, continue to prosper and be a model and ornament to the world!
This year of pain and anxiety, yet for us so rich in blessings, draws to its close. It moves me more than ever as its last day approaches. For how much have we not to thank the Almighty – for my life, which is so unworthy compared to many others; the new life of this little one [her daughter – Irene] and above all the preservation of my own dear husband who is my all in this life.
The trials of this year must have brought some good with all the evil; good to the individual and good to the multitude. God grant we may all profit by what we have learned, and gain more and more that trust in God’s love, which is our guide and support in trouble and in joy! Oh, more than ever, I have felt this year that God’s goodness and love are indeed beyond comprehension!
...I am really glad to hear you can listen to a little music. Music is such a heavenly thing, and dear Papa loved it so much that I can’t but think that now it must be soothing, and bring you near to him....”


Bring on the fireworks and the music....Ring out the old, ring in the new! A Very Happy New Year!

Shells of Souls

Getting out of the car at a supermarket today, I saw, very close to my foot, a perfect ‘shell’ of a squirrel. He lay on his side, quite dead, in a place where, until a couple of days ago, there had been a mound of snow. He looked like a young squirrel – not our original native red squirrels which are so rarely seen nowadays, but a grey one (an American variety!) with unusually white fur across his chest.
I felt sad to think perhaps he had frozen to death in that mound of snow, for there was nothing about him that suggested he had been attacked and he looked very young. I walk often in the woods and see countless lively squirrels but have never ever seen a dead one, so it seemed odd that this little one should be lying there like litter in the supermarket car park. The most striking thing, though, was – and please forgive me if this sounds macabre – that shell-like look that all bodies have when Life has moved on from them. I was a nurse for a while and, being around the ‘dying’ (I write it in inverted commas because ‘dying’ sounds so final and that, I am sure, is not so) there was always such a noticeable time when a hush fell over the ward, and such a sense of awe at the moment when someone seemed to move out of their body and all that was left was a shell.

This is the anniversary of Queen Victoria’s ‘dreadful 14th’ – the day on which her husband, Prince Albert and, seventeen years later, her daughter, Princess Alice, left this life. One snowy night, around this time of year, when carols were playing on a hospital ward, I held the hand of someone else, who will probably not be remembered by anyone since this person was neither a prince nor a princess and had no family as far as we knew, as they passed on. I hardly knew this person except in their most intimate moment of death. It was late on a dark December evening, just before Christmas. The ‘patient’ had been moved to a side room, the ward was quiet and so I went to sit with this person. I was tired, didn’t really want to be there and hated working nights but my head was filled with the carols I had been hearing, “where charity stands watching, and faith holds wide the door..” and this person sighed deeply and was gone, “the dark night breaks, the morning wakes and Christmas comes once more...” That little, stark side room in a hospital, which was once a workhouse and is filled with the energy of so much death and darkness, suddenly seemed joyful. I saw the body – the shell of the soul of that person whose hand I had been holding, while feeling so dark and tired and sleepy and sad, and suddenly I wanted to dance. It seemed like all the sad stuff we hang around death is so meaningless because it’s no different from shells on beaches or fallen leaves in autumn.

There was always, in my experience, great respect shown to dead bodies by nurses and porters. In laying out a body, all the nurses I knew spoke to it, treated it with respect as though there person still inhabited it. (Newspapers make out nowadays that nurses are careless of the elderly but that was never my experience as a nurse). So, we did what needed to be done with this person’s body and my colleague was speaking to it as though the person was still there. To me it was nothing but a shell, but, after years of believing in a vague heaven, in that moment and ever since, I would stake my life on the certainty of eternal life and the very real reality of heaven being closer than we know.


On the terrible 14th – ‘dear, angel Albert’ (oh, sigh, what a beautiful man!) and ‘dearest Alice’ – how significant that Alice shares her anniversary with her beloved father, and I have no doubt whatsoever that he came to lead her on when her final words were, “Dear Papa...”
Gosh! What light she must have experienced!

Thinking of Prince Albert, Tennyson's brilliant poem comes to mind:


"Lives of great men all remind us,
We can make our lives sublime,
And, departing, leave behind us,
Footprints in the sands of time."


Prince Albert, I think, more than any other person of the time, changed for the better the face of the British monarchy and the face of Britain itself...

It also happens to be the feast day of John of the Cross and I came across one of his very beautiful poem, which seems so appropriate for Prince Albert and Princess Alice today, and posted it here: http://hilliardandcroft.blogspot.com/(Since the snow looks set to return tomorrow, I’d be interested to hear any advice on whether we can feed squirrels or what we should leave out for them. So much has been written about the best things to do for hedgehogs but little about squirrels. Are they best left to themselves?)

Queen Victoria's granddaughters - Continued...

A cool winter wind blew in from the sea as Queen Victoria’s two eldest daughters strolled along the front in Cannes. To all outward appearances, Vicky, the elder and cleverer of the two, had made the better match. Prussia was so much wealthier and more powerful than the impoverished Grand Duchy of Hesse-Darmstadt, and she could not have found a more devoted husband than Fritz, with whom she was still in love after eleven years of marriage. Yet, as she watched the children playing croquet, running on the sand, swishing through rock pools and collecting botanical specimens, the Crown Princess could not help but wonder who had the happier lot.
Short in stature and, by the age of twenty-nine, already developing her mother’s matronly figure, Vicky had always considered her sister far prettier than she was and the sight of Alice’s girls running beside her own clumsy daughter, Charlotte, gave rise to a rueful envy. Although Victoria of Hesse was quite a tomboy with a tendency to talk too much, both she and her younger sister Ella looked so much healthier than their painfully thin Prussian cousin, who suffered continuously from nose and throat complaints and appeared far younger than her nine years.
Only two years previously, Vicky had written hopefully to Queen Victoria that Charlotte ‘is very good looking and much admired’ but seeing her now beside her Hessian cousins, the optimism seemed premature. Confident yet unassuming in their hand-me-down clothes, Alice’s daughters appeared so charming next to the nervous and graceless Charlotte whose hair was so thin it had to be cropped short like a boy’s, and who was such a nail-biter that Vicky had resorted to strapping her hands to her sides and making her wear gloves all day. When Queen Victoria played down the difference remarking that Alice’s third daughter, Irène, was plain, Vicky replied frankly that her own son, Henry, was ‘ugly,’ though conceding that this was not his fault since: ‘he cannot help being so ugly, and he is really not stupid and can be very amusing.’
Still more disappointing for Vicky than her children’s appearance, was their behaviour. With true Hohenzollern pride, her eldest son, ten-year-old Willy, strutted about giving orders and reminding his cousins of the recent Prussian victory over Hesse. Even in his more placid moments he changed his mind so often, abandoning one game to start another, that he soon earned the nickname ‘William the Sudden.’ While his younger sister and brother, Charlotte and Henry, were happy to follow his lead, Alice’s boisterous but impeccably mannered daughters yielded to his whims, perhaps making allowance for his pomposity out of pity for his atrophied left arm. Though every attempt had been made to conceal the deformity - specially designed suits with raised pockets and shortened sleeves - it served as a constant reminder to his mother that she had failed in her first duty to produce a flawless heir.
The trauma of her his birth still haunted the Crown Princess. After thirty-six hours of a tortuous labour, during which the doctors gave up hope of saving either mother or child, the baby was found to be in the breach position and was forcibly removed by forceps. In the process, the nerves in his shoulder were badly damaged and consequently his arm failed to develop. For a boy in Willy’s position as heir to the Prussian throne the deformity was more than a handicap, it was a humiliation. Already Vicky had heard cruel muttering that a ‘one-armed man’ should never be king and she had watched helplessly as he endured various brutal and unsuccessful attempts to correct the abnormality.
“The arm will be a great obstacle to his education,” Vicky had written to her mother, “as what has to be done for it not only takes up so much time but tires him so that he is not fit to learn directly afterwards. He is very backward for his age in consequence; he can neither read nor write nor spell yet…”
Through sheer strength of will he had learned to ride one-handed but even by the age of ten he had difficulty using a knife and fork and the resultant shame left him with a hatred of any sign of weakness and a need to exert his own superiority.
If the trauma of his birth explained Willy’s erratic behaviour, there was no apparent excuse for his equally tempestuous sister. Charlotte’s moods swung from total apathy to sudden tantrums and rages and her sense of her own importance led her to treat her social inferiors with disdain. Queen Victoria, who insisted that all her servants should be treated with respect, had been deeply offended by Charlotte’s refusal to shake hands with her favourite ghillie, John Brown, and wrote a strongly worded letter to Vicky expressing her disapproval. The Crown Princess knew and despaired of her elder children’s arrogance but protested that she was not to blame. Their Hohenzollern grandparents spoiled them terribly and infused them with such Prussian pride that there was little she could do to correct them.
Grey clouds gathered over the sea and the princesses assembled their children to return to the Grand Hotel. Archdeacon Dealtry of Madras had arrived to speak English with the elder Prussian boys and, as Willy and Henry prepared for their lesson, Vicky set up her easel to paint a portrait of the Archdeacon’s daughter, carried in the arms of an Indian servant.
Art was virtually the only one of Vicky’s many talents that had not been stifled since her marriage. Eleven years earlier, she had arrived in Berlin filled with high hopes for the future. Germany at the time comprised a number of independent kingdoms and grand duchies of which Prussia was the most dominant. For years, ideas had been mooted about a confederation of the various states and when Vicky married the liberal-minded Fritz, she believed that together they could realise her father’s vision of a peaceful and unified Germany governed along the lines of the British constitution. It did not take long to discover that few members of the Prussian Court shared her dream.
Fritz’s father, first Regent then King, believed more in an absolute monarchy than a British-style constitution and when he appointed the formidable Otto Von Bismarck as Chancellor, all hopes of a democratic society were dispelled. From the start, it was Bismarck’s intention to create a powerful empire rivalling its European neighbours in military supremacy and prestige. Within five years of Vicky’s wedding, he had annexed the disputed Danish duchies of Schleswig and Holstein before embarking upon a war with Austria, dragging other states - including Alice’s Hesse-Darmstadt - into the conflict.
In spite of the Prussian victory, the war had been even more disastrous for Vicky than it had been for Alice. In her anxiety about Fritz’s impending departure for the front, she gave birth to a premature baby, whom, to her mother’s satisfaction, she named Victoria Moretta.
While Moretta flourished Vicky scarcely had time to recover from the birth when tragedy struck the family. No sooner had Fritz left for battle when his son, two-year-old son, Sigismund, developed a fever. The same age as his cousin, Ella, little ‘Sigi’ had a special place in his mother’s heart as the first of her children to be breast-fed. He seemed such a healthy child, so ‘pretty’ so ‘merry’ and ‘so wonderfully strong, with such a fine colour, always laughing and so lively,’ that his illness was all the more shocking. To make matters worse, most of the Court doctors had left with the army and by the time that meningitis was diagnosed, the child was beyond hope. His death in mid-June plunged the Crown Princess into the depths of despair:
“What I suffer none can know,” she wrote to Queen Victoria, “– few know how I loved! It was my own happy secret – the long cry of agony which rises from the inmost depths of my soul reaches heaven alone.”
With Fritz far away and no one on hand to comfort her, Vicky’s grief took a rather macabre turn. Sealing the room in which Sigi had died, she placed an effigy of a baby in his cot and visited it regularly to the horror and disgust of the Court.
The decisive Prussian triumph at Könnigratz did little to raise Vicky’s spirits. Though she half-heartedly rejoiced in the honours that victory accorded her husband, military success brought no solace when she considered the plight of her sister in Darmstadt. Moreover, she could only watch in despair as Bismarck, claiming much of the credit for the Prussian triumph, urged the king to continue his belligerent ambitions further afield.
In such a militaristic climate, there was little room for a liberal-minded and very English princess, whose insistence on clinging to her native customs and tactless comparisons of Britain and Germany did nothing to endear her to the Court. Like Alice, she had shown initiative and imagination in her philanthropic activities. She had established homes and training schools for the unemployed, and organised schemes to provide them with temporary work. She had sponsored evening classes, arranged educational programmes in health and hygiene, founded schools of nursing, and an institute to train young women in a variety of trades; but her efforts were largely unnoticed. The Press drew attention only to her Englishness and her outspoken opposition to Bismarck until she became so unpopular that many Berliners were happy to believe that outlandish stories that the Chancellor fabricated about her. If she hoped for support from her in-laws, she was quickly disillusioned. As far as Fritz’s father was concerned, women had no business meddling in politics, and a Crown Princess’s sole purpose was to provide the country with heirs.
Unfortunately Vicky did little help her own cause. Like Alice, she was prone to bouts of depression and illness, exacerbated by frequent pregnancies and the stifling of her many talents. Moreover, according to one of her English nieces, there was:
“…a curious trait in her character - she was never really satisfied with the moment itself. When she was in Berlin, everything in England was perfect: when she was in England, everything German was equally perfect.”
Even in Cannes, as Alice wrote to Queen Victoria of the ‘heavenly blue sea,’ and the beauty of the sunsets and countryside, Vicky only complained of the expense of the place and the poverty of its architecture:
“If it were not that dear Alice and I were so happy together…I do not think we either of us would be enthusiastic about this place…the absence of nice buildings makes monotonous.”
Frustrated in her aspirations and increasingly isolated from Berlin society, Vicky had no option but to confine her many talents to the decoration of her home and the upbringing of her family. ‘Every moment she could spare…she spent with us,’ Moretta recalled yet even in the schoolroom her hopes were thwarted. It was frustrating for a woman of Vicky’s intellect to discover that her children were not great scholars. Impulsive Willy was hindered by his arm, Henry was ‘lazy’ and Charlotte was, in her mother’s eyes, ‘backward’ and ‘dull.’
‘Stupidity is not a sin,’ she wrote in exasperation to Queen Victoria, ‘but it renders education a hard and difficult task.’
Brilliant herself, the standards she set for her children were way beyond their ability until Queen Victoria herself felt it necessary to intervene:
“Don’t press poor dear Henry too much; it will not do any good and he will learn none the better for it…more harm than good is done by forcing delicate and backward children.”
If at times the perfectionist Vicky despaired of her elder children, she could be equally effusive in their praise. Henry - in spite of his ‘ugliness’ - was ‘a great darling’; Willy, ‘very intelligent and good-looking’ and yet within the same paragraph she was ever ready to point out their faults with the result that the children were never quite sure where they stood and, beneath much of their bluster, all were intrinsically shy and lacking in self-esteem. Unable to impress their mother, Willy, Charlotte and Henry ran to their grandparents for praise. The Prussian Queen Augusta made no secret of her contempt for the Crown Princess and actively encouraged Willy’s rising hostility towards her. The king, meanwhile, regaled his grandson with tales of past Prussian victories, filling his head with dreams of ruling a mighty Empire surpassing that of his British grandmother. The giant Bismarck, ever willing to flatter the impressionable boy to his face while privately viewing him with scorn, appeared to personify that dream and beside the ‘Iron Chancellor’ the Crown Prince and Princess seemed weak, unpatriotic and unworthy of respect or imitation. Proud of his Hohenzollern ancestry, Willy grew to despise his English blood and Vicky could only take refuge in Fritz’s abiding love and the determination to keep her younger children free from the ‘Prussian influence.’
By the time of Moretta’s birth, Vicky was determined to play a more direct role in her children’s upbringing and the effects were almost immediately apparent. Lacking the precociousness of her elder siblings, Moretta, even in early childhood, appeared more English than Prussian:
“She is the only one of our children who does not speak German;” Vicky explained to Queen Victoria, “she will not say any German words.”
Her cheerfulness endeared her to Vicky, but even so her extreme shyness, particularly among strangers, caused her mother a great deal of concern. Within eighteen months of Moretta’s birth, a fourth son, Waldemar was born and he too, under Vicky’s care was so ‘dear’ and ‘honest’ that he soon became her favourite child.

The holiday in Cannes brought a brief respite to both Vicky and Alice. ‘Living quietly together,’ they had the rare opportunity of sharing memories of their idyllic childhood and confiding in one another their present troubles.
“It does me good…to have Vicky’s stimulating company,” Alice wrote to Louis from Cannes, “and to get right away from the narrow, stifling atmosphere of Darmstadt…Vicky learns and hears so much, and she makes really good progress every year, which I cannot say for myself.”
Vicky, too, began to appreciate that, though Alice’s life seemed so much less complicated than her own, she too had her share of difficulties:
“[Alice’s] life in Germany, though she enjoys more liberty than I, and has her husband more to herself, has its disadvantages and I have always admired the way she has taken them.”
The winter moved on and the arrival of Louis and Fritz on the 19th December brought a happy reunion of both families in time for Christmas. Yet, while the children listened intrigued to their fathers’ accounts of adventures in distant lands, both Alice and Vicky had reason to anticipate their return to Germany with some trepidation. With a heavy heart, Alice set out with her children to the ‘stifling’ atmosphere of Darmstadt, while for Vicky there came a brief respite as she and Fritz broke their journey in Paris. Entertained by the charismatic Emperor Napoleon III, and delighting in the Parisian culture, neither Vicky nor Fritz could have realized that within seven months the Prussian Crown Prince would be leading his troops towards the French capital in the midst of a bitter war.

The Advice of a Mother of 9 Children


A swish of black skirts broke the silence as a short, round figure bustled along the corridors of Osborne House, huffing in indignation. Queen Victoria was definitely not amused. She sat down at her desk, her back as straight as a rod, and taking a pen in her podgy red hands, hastily scratched at the paper.

“It hurts me deeply that my own 2 daughters should set at defiance the advice of a Mother of 9 Children…”[i]

It was not the first time that Princess Alice had offended her mother. Before she left home, she had been such a dutiful daughter but in the two years since her marriage to Louis, heir to the Grand Duchy of Hesse-Darmstadt, Alice’s behaviour was becoming increasingly out-of-hand. It was one thing to show an interest in Florence Nightingale’s theories of nursing, quite another to develop so unseemly a fascination with anatomy. Alice thought nothing of discussing unsuitable matters with all and sundry and so indelicate was her conversation that the Queen was reluctant to allow her younger daughters to visit Darmstadt for fear of what they may hear.

And now this!

It had been traumatic enough for Queen Victoria to hand over to a husband her innocent child ‘from whom all has been so carefully kept and guarded,’ but the speed with which Alice became pregnant had been even harder to bear. At the time of her wedding in July 1862, Alice had, according to her mother, ‘the greatest horror of having children and would rather have none’ and yet exactly nine months later she had returned to Windsor to give birth to a daughter. For the Queen, who remained at her side throughout the eight-hour labour, the experience was more harrowing than if she were going through it herself and she promptly berated Louis for inflicting such torture on her child. Though placated by the news that the baby would be named Victoria Alberta, the Queen made it clear that she hoped it would be a long time before the ordeal was repeated.

Alice ignored the advice and in less than a year she was again in ‘an unfortunate condition.’ This time she spared her mother’s nerves by staying in Germany for the birth of a second daughter, Elizabeth (Ella), but the Queen barely had time to breathe a sigh of relief when the appalling news arrived from Darmstadt. Alice had dispensed with wet nurses to breast-feed her baby herself!

Queen Victoria could hardly contain her revulsion. That her own daughter should indulge in such an ‘animal’ and time-consuming practice, which was demeaning for any woman but for a princess unheard of and unnecessary, was beyond her comprehension. And still more devastating was the discovery that Alice’s elder sister, Vicky, was to blame!

The podgy red hand flew over the paper:

You said you did it only for your health…& because you have no social duties…Well Vicky has none of these excuses.”[ii]

Crown Princess Victoria Adelaide, her late father’s favourite child, had seldom, if ever, stepped out of line before. Intellectually brilliant, artistically gifted, she had even conveniently fallen in love with her parents’ first choice of marriage partner - Crown Prince Frederick (Fritz) of Prussia. Through the ups and downs of life in Berlin (and in spite of Fritz’s unfailing love there were more downs than ups) she had maintained a regular, almost daily, corres-pondence with her mother and struggled against insurmountable odds to remain a dutiful daughter. Until now!

Not only had Vicky defied the Queens of both Britain and Prussia to breast-feed her own fourth baby, Sigismund, but had positively encouraged Alice to do the same! Queen Victoria put down her pen and seething with disgust sent word to the Royal Dairy that a cow should be named ‘Alice.’

[i] Packard, Jerold M. Victoria’s Daughters Sutton 1999

[ii] ibid

Happy Birthday, Princess Alice, Grand Duchess of Hesse! One of the most spiritual and fascinating daughters of Queen Victoria, Alice, like her daughters, was a deeply sensitive person who combined her joie de vivre with a sense of imminent tragedy; a great spiritual seeker whose experiences seemed to turn her back to the 'safe' beliefs of her childhood and then to yield altogether and escape, at such an early age, from this life. Maybe she thought too much...Maybe, like her father, she felt too deeply. Alice was a great soul and a beautiful human being!

Prince Albert and Princess Alice


In loving memory of beautiful Prince Albert who died on 14th December 1861 aged only 42. In his relatively short life he had achieved so much - a great artist, composer and musician, he restored the tarnished image of the monarchy in Britain and was passionate about the welfare of the people. Far-sighted in ensuring an excellent education for his daughters as well as his sons, he was a deeply loving father and a true role model...and incredibly handsome too!!



And in loving memory of his daughter, Princess Alice, who, after wearing herself out caring for her family and the people of Hesse, died aged only 35 on 14th December 1878. Like her father, Alice had a profound social conscience and a deep, questioning spirituality. It is significant and beautiful that her last words were, "Dear Papa..."

Heroes

I know an elderly woman who dislikes most people she meets but the moment that they pass from this life, she turns them into saints and won't hear a bad word spoken of them. In some ways she resembles Queen Victoria, I think. Although she adored Prince Albert, Queen Victoria made much of his life so difficult by her mood-swings and criticism and her own neediness. The same is true of her daughter, Alice, who - because she had criticised John Brown - Queen Victoria described to relatives all over Europe as having 'too high an opinion of herself', but the moment she died, she was suddenly a perfect example of humility!

How odd people are in their worship of those who are no longer physically here, and how quickly someone who was vilified in life can be turned into a saint once they have passed on! It's fascinating how many so-called 'saints' were hounded by bishops during their lifetime, and only later the good they did was recognized. John of the Cross, for example, was imprisoned - I believe - by the Church. Julie Billiart was constantly criticised by bishops; Bernadette of Lourdes was all but banished to her convent to keep her out of the way (and typically thought suffering was the only way to heaven, so died young). Jesus was crucified by the Church authorities.

I wonder why it is that people are so drawn to messages only after someone is no longer here to expound their message further?? Is it because it is too challenging to face when they are still here? It's safer and easier to create the image in our own likeness when there is no possibility of that false image being challenged?

In my opinion, heroes are never really heroes - they are all the products of our own image of what we would like to be and believe about all that is finest in ourselves. Dead heroes don't challenge that so it's easier to enshrine them and fit them into boxes. Truth be told, there are thousands of heroes - people who have lived out their lives according to their own lights, and bringing more joy and wonder into the world. The heroes established by 'history' - which often means by the government of the day - are seldom any more or less than the small child walking past their monument, doing whatever we do to get by, to improve our understanding, to be who we really are, unswayed by the need to fit in or fit someone else's mould of how we should live.

I like statues of heroes (and England is littered with them!), and what is most interesting, is scraping the surface to find, underneath, a person who is no different from all the everyday people we pass and talk to as we go about our daily business. We don't have to be dead to be heroes. We just have to be our true selves.

"All In the Mind"


A quite common occurrence (which I have several times witnessed) when people are close to the end of their earthly life is the seeing of someone close to them coming to take them 'home'. The last words of Princess Alice, Grand Duchess Hesse, were "Dear Papa...." on the anniversary of his death and I have no doubt whatsoever that he came to meet her as she passed from this life. An equally common occurrence is that of recently bereaved people who see or in some way experience the recently departed person (or animal) coming to say goodbye or sending a comforting sign that all is well.

Many times these phenomena are dismissed by logically-minded thinkers as simply a means by which a person who cannot cope with loss finds comfort - the work of the brain, or still more dismissively 'all in the mind'.

The question immediately arises as to what is meant by 'all in the mind'. And the inadequate answer received is, "the subconscious protecting you..."
But what is the subconscious? The murky area that logical minds cannot reach....

Yes, indeed, things are 'all in the mind' but then the mind has avenues that logical thinking knows nothing about. Caverns and splendours that cannot be reached by scientific thinking alone, lead us through pathways that science hasn't even begun to charter because they cannot be measured by statistics or recorded by instruments. The dismissive comment of something being 'all in the mind' seems to me to be the frightened response of a mind that has built walls around itself to keep itself safe - a sort of self-imposed prison.

Shakespeare expressed it so perfectly in "Hamlet": "There are more things in heaven and earth, Horatio, than are dream'd of in your philosophy."

And I've included a lovely picture of some trees at Temple Newsam because trees often seem wiser than humans....to my mind!!!

Alice Had a Little Lamb


A very lovely story about Princess Alice, who was born on April 25th 1843, is recounted in a letter from Lady Lyttleton and reproduced in the forward to the collection of Alice's letters, written by her sister, Lenchen. The letter describes Alice's fourth birthday:

"One present I think we all wish to live farther off: a live lamb, all over pink ribbons and bells. He is already the greatest pet, as one may suppose.
Princess Alice's pet lamb is the cause of many tears. He will not take to his mistress but runs away lustily, and will soon butt at her, though she is most coaxy, and said to him in her sweetest tones, after kissing his nose often: "Milly, dear Milly! Do you like me?"
"

Alice's Soul Searching


It seems to me that the more we swim against the tide or try to force our idea as to how things could or should be, the more frustrated we become. Perhaps it is for this reason that so many religious people resign themselves to 'the will of God' in such a negative way.

Dear Princess Alice, mother of Grand Duchess Elizabeth and Alix, the last Tsarina of Russia, seemed to struggle for so long, trying to make sense of her beliefs and following paths that led her away from orthodox views. The death of her little son, Frittie, somehow curtailed all of that and she resigned herself to 'the will of God' and died of diphtheria and exhaustion (or despair) at the age of 35. She was deeply mourned. She had spent her short life in Hesse not only raising her family but also doing all she could to care for the poor. A deeply feeling human being, she was a talented musician and of a poetic nature with a great sense of humour but I believe she went so far in her soul-searching and then, due to the pressures of the era (where the superficial Queen of Prussia labelled her 'an atheist') and the immediate circumstances of her life 'resigned' herself to the 'inevitable' and the orthodox views of religion and consequently literally choked to death over it.

Her children caught her soul-seeking and continued from where she left off. The saddest part of it all, is that two of her daughters who might have been so close and so mutually supportive, ended up opposing one another. Alix, the Tsarina, following the path of the mystical and the desperate at the same time; and Ella, following the path of the mystical and the need to be within a set regime. All these beautiful soul-searching people, working out their understanding and their own realities...The external events are hugely interesting but the inner lives are endlessly absorbing as they play out in all of us sooner or later, I think.

"Acts of God"

An interesting thought about how our thoughts affect our bodies...

Vicky's husband, Fritz - Emperor Frederick III - spent much of his young life being 'gagged' by his father. Every time he raised an opposing thought, he was silenced. At the same time, Vicky was urging him to speak out. He was in a very difficult position. As the time drew near for him to take up his position as emperor, he was diagnosed with throat cancer.

Vicky felt that she bore the weight of the world on her shoulders. She tried to balance so many things but the strain was so great that she couldn't bear it. Nor could she express it. She suffered greatly, too, over the way her children were raised and how the older ones seemed to reject her. She was diagnosed with breast cancer and spinal cancer.

Alice was never allowed to express her grief at the death of her father as she was too busy caring for her mother and helping to keep 'the firm' running. When her little daughter, May, died, she was compelled to keep that silent, too....she died of diphtheria, which affects the throat.

Serge lived with the horror of what had happened to his father. He also had - I think - some kind of loathing for his body, which was literally obliterated by the bomb that killed him.

There are many, many more examples and the deeper we go into our own thoughts, the more clear it is how we choose to destroy or re-create ourselves....Ho hum...It's a thought which offends many people because we all like to play victim at times. "It wasn't my fault I caught this or that...." It's not a question of 'fault' though, it's more a question of responsibility. Living in the 'image and likeness of God' , our thoughts have tremendous power - far greater than we choose to be aware of, I think. "Act of God" is a something assigned to nasty eventualities - as though a loving creator would be so petulant as to wipe out his/her people! Perhaps 'act of thought' would be more appropriate for many things. "Acts of God" - acting from our highest selves, would surely only mean life and health and freedom.

Prince Albert's Unexpressed Sorrow

Considering the effects of our thoughts and emotions on our bodies (one need only think of blushing or having butterflies in the stomach), it's small wonder that long unexpressed emotions have long term effects on health.
As a child, dear, lovely Prince Albert was, according to his biographer, Daphne Bennet, known for his docility and yet his letters reveal the extent of his inner anguish, particularly in relation to the sudden 'disappearance' of his poor mother - banished by her husband for having an affair (regardless of the fact that he had many mistresses). Albert's mother had lavished affection on him, and departed so swiftly from his life when he was so young - only 5 years old. His feelings about that remained unexpressed and surely clouded the whole of his life. What's more, he was a sensitive boy - a musician and artist - growing up with a gruff 'macho' father and brother.
Perhaps it was for this reason that Albert had such a horror of infidelity and, unlike most princes of the day who would have thought nothing of their sons taking mistresses, was shocked to the core when the Prince of Wales had a fling with an actress. Perhaps it was for the reason, too, that Albert was such a devoted father to his children. Above all, though, I cannot help but think how this sadness affected his health. Frequently he suffered from stomach complaints (it is my belief that stomach cancer rather than typhoid killed him), and exhaustion. He wore himself out with his work, it's true, but all that unxpressed sorrow surely took its toll. It's ironic that his daughter, Alice, who was so close to him, was unable to express her sorrow fully at his death, since she was caring for her mother and taking on some of the Queen responsibilities...and then, likewise, Alice was plagued with ill-health to the end of her short life.

A Little More of Ella's Childhood Christmas

(From The Life & Tragedy of Alexandra Feodorovna by Baroness Sophie Buxhoevden:

"Christmas was celebrated partly in the English and partly in the German way, and was a family feast in which all the household shared. A huge Christmas tree stood in the ballroom, its branches laden with candles, apples, gilt nuts, pink quince sausages, and all kinds of treasures. Round it were tables with gifts for all the members of the family. The servants came in and the Grand Duchess gave them their presents. Then followed a family Christmas dinner, at which the traditional German goose was followed by real English plum pudding and mince pies sent from England. The poor were not forgotten, and Princess Alice had gifts sent to all the hospitals. Later, the Empress continued the same Christmas customs in Russia."

Grand Duchess Elizabeth's Childhood Christmas

From the letters of Princess Alice to Queen Victoria:

Christmas Day 1868:

"Louis [Ella's father] thanks you a thousand times for the charming presents for the children. They showed them to everyone, shouting, "This is from my dear English Grandmama;" and Ella, who is always sentimental, added, "She is so very good, my Grandmama." Irene could not be parted from the doll you gave her, nor Victoria from hers....We spent a very happy Christmas Eve, surrounded by our dear children and our kind relations."

December 23rd 1870 [in the midst of the Franco-Prussian War]

"This morning I have been at the Alice Hospital, which is prospering. I have been taking my gifts for Christmas to one hospital after another. Your two capes have delighted the poor sufferers, and the one wounded for the second time is very bad, alas! My wounded officer in the house is recovering, next to a miracle. For the two wounded in the house, the children, our household, and the children of our servants at the war, I arranged Christmas trees. We grown-up ones of the family have given up Christmas for ourselves. We have too much to do for others, and my parents-in-law, like me, feel the absence of the dear ones who are always here for Christmas."

Christmas Day 1872

"We gave all our servants presents - the whole household and stable - under the Christmas tree, which we made for the children; and when the tree is divided, the children of all our servants come and share it with ours. It keeps the household as a family and is so important. We have fifty people to give to!
...I am so glad Vicky gave such a flattering account of Baby [the future Empress Alexandra of Russia]. She is quite the personification of her nickname 'Sunny' - much like Ella but a smaller head and livelier, with Ernie's dimple and expression."

Dear Papa


On December 14th 1861, England lost the greatest king we never had, and Queen Victoria was plunged into mourning for the untimely death, at the age of 42, of her 'beloved angel', Albert.
The mourning continued for many, many years; his night shirt was laid out on his bed ever evening and his shaving water changed each day, and Queen Victoria withdrew from public life for so long - unable to 'face the world alone' - that public patience ran out and a sign was placed on Buckingham Palace gates, saying: "Situation Vacant".
In the immediate aftermath of his death, his second daughter, Alice - mother of Grand Duchess Elizabeth - was the one who held the family together and sustained her mother through those early weeks. Alice was particularly close to her father and resembled him in many way - both exhausted themselves in the service of their countries, and had an overriding sense of the responsibility that came with their privileged positions.
Two years after Prince Albert's death, Alice - now married to Louis of Hesse - write to her mother:
"Pray for me when you kneel at his grace - pray that my happiness may be allowed to last long; think of me when you kneel there where on that day my hand rested on your and Papa's dear hands, two years ago. That bond between us is so strong, beloved Mama. I feel it is a legacy from him."
Seventeen years to the day after her father's death, Alice - having exhausted herself caring for her family who had been struck with diphtheria, succumbed to the illness herself. She had been virtually unconscious for some days when, on 14th December 1878, she opened her eyes and murmured, "Dear Papa!" He had come to take her home.

Today is the 144th birthday of Grand Duchess Elizabeth, whose birth shocked her grandmother, Queen Victoria, because the Queen felt her daughter - Princess Alice - should have waited longer before having a second child. The Queen was in for an even greater shock when she discovered that Alice had chosen to breast-feed her baby - something that the Queen considered unpleasant for anyone, and for a princess unneccessary and demeaning! So great was the Queen's annoyance that she ordered a cow in the royal dairy to be named Alice!

New Novel Based On The Life of Grand Duchess Elizabeth of Russia

Based on the true story of Queen Victoria's granddaughter, Grand Duchess Elizaveta Feodorovna, "Most Beautiful Princess" follows 'Ella' from her arrival in Russia to marry Grand Duke Serge Alexandrovich, brother of Tsar Alexander III, through to her horrific murder at the hands of the Bolsheviks.

Adored and yet vilified as a German spy; childless, yet loved by children; gentle, yet capable of virtually single-handedly engineering the marriage of her ill-fated sister, Alexandra to Nicholas II, last Tsar of all the Russias; devoted to her difficult husband, yet so often the object of slander and gossip, at first glance her intriguing life seems one of extremes. Yet there is one unchanging thread running through this story - from all the glamour of Royal Courts in the halcyon days of the 19th century monarchies, to the abject poverty of Moscow's slums; she maintained an unchanging determination to bring beauty into the world. Far from being simply a story of an another era, the life of Ella, Grand Duchess Elisabeth Feodorovna speaks directly of so many issues facing the world today. In a life which encountered terrorism, the need for religious tolerance, the bridging of the gap between the rich and the poor, and the joining of the material with the spiritual, Ella's is not only a fascinating historical life but perhaps, more importantly, a template for the future of all our lives.

Although this is a novel, all the characters in the book actually existed and, having already researched and written the biography of Ella, I have ensured that it is grounded in historical accuracy.
Some historical biographers take exception to the fictionalisation of real people - and I completely understand and appreciate that opinion. Over the next few days, however, I shall explain why I chose this genre to present my understanding of the beautiful life of Grand Duchess Elizabeth.

Princess Alice, continued.

Devoted as Alice was to her husband, it did not take long to discover that their intellectual and spiritual interests were far apart. Oftentimes melancholic, profoundly spiritual Alice had a questioning faith, and longed for a soul mate who could empathise with her quest for truth. She became fascinated by the controversial theologian David Strauss and her patronage of his work led to her being branded by the superficial Queen Augusta of Prussia as an atheist. Nothing could have been further from the truth but when tragedy struck her family with the death of her little son, Frittie, it seems Alice felt the need to return to a more conventional view of religion.
Frittie, diagnosed the previous year with haemophilia, was playing in Alice's room, when he caught sight of his brother through an open window. Climbing up to wave to him, the little boy fell onto the concrete below. At first he seemed merely dazed but that night he suffered a cerebral haemorrhage and died. Alice never fully recovered from his death.
Five years later, her eldest daughter Victoria contracted diphtheria which quickly spread through the family. Only her second daughter, Ella, remained free of the disease and, for her own safety, was sent to stay with her paternal grandmother in nearby Bessungen.
Alice personally nursed all of her children in turn, adhering to the doctor's instructions that she must neither kiss nor hold them for fear of contracting the illness herself. In spite of all her care, her youngest daughter, May, died, and, since Louis had also been struck with the illness, Alice was obliged to attend her funeral alone.
When Alice's son, Ernie, himself suffering from the disease asked for news of his sister's progress, Alice felt obliged to conceal from him the fact that she had died for fear that the news would further weaken him. As Ernie began to recover, Alice told him the truth and he was so upset that she could no longer bear it. Contrary to the doctor's instructions she hugged and kissed him...It was to be what Disraeli reported to Parliament, 'the kiss of death'.
As the rest of the family recovered, Alice contracted the disease and too worn out to fight it, died, at the age of 35, on the anniversary of the death her father - 14th December 1878. Her final whispered words were, "Dear Papa..." It seems her beloved father had come to take her home.

Princess Alice 1843-1878

Over the next few weeks, I intend to add accounts of some of the members of Queen Victoria's extended family, beginning today with one of the most tragic and heroic of all the Queen's children, her second daughter, Princess Alice, Grand Duchess of Hesse.

Only eighteen-years-old when her father, Prince Albert, died in December 1861, the young princess virtually took over all her mother's duties, while the Queen was lost in her grief. This gave Alice little time to come to terms with her own bereavement - and she had been very close to her father.
Alice's wedding, the following July, was a gloomy affair. Virtually everyone was dressed in black, the Queen and several of Alice's siblings wept throughout the service and even the recently-widowed Archbishop performing the ceremony was in tears.
Alice went with her new husband, Prince Louis of Hesse-and-by-Rhine, to Darmstadt, the centre of the little German Grand Duchy to which her husband was heir. By royal standards they were not wealthy and were driven to beg Queen Victoria for financial assistance.
Alice devoted herself entirely to the people of Hesse, often going incognito to their homes, scrubbing floors and making meals for the sick and elderly. She founded countless charitable institutions, supported the Red Cross, opened a 'mental asylum' and personally worked in the hospitals carrying out the most menial tasks.
She bore 5 children - two of whom, Ella, the future Grand Duchess Elizaveta Feodorovna, and Alix, the future Empress Alexandra of Russia - were destined to be murdered by the bolsheviks. Unlike many princesses of her day, Alice took a personal interest in every aspect of her children's welfare and education, shocking Queen Victoria by breast-feeding baby Ella herself. Their curriculum was wide-ranging and alongside academic skills she introduced all her children to the idea that responsibility accompanied their privileged position.
To be continued....